2 Simple Ways to Stop Ruining Your Work Life And Get More Done

Today's post was written by Darcy Luoma President, Darcy Luoma Coaching and Consulting.

15 years ago when I was the Director of U.S. Senator Kohl’s Madison office, I was a multi-tasking machine, or so I thought. The only problem? I was exhausted. I never found enough time to get things done, and I felt like every day was a constant stream of interruptions to help the staff, fight fires, offer advice and solve problems.

At the same time, I was getting certified as a life coach and doing my master’s thesis on coaching. All of a sudden it clicked—the tools I was learning as a coach could also serve me as a team leader!

So, What Does That Mean?

For me it meant creating clear expectations, setting up accountability structures, formalizing individual and team meetings, and most importantly, realizing that my team members were more than capable of solving their own problems.

Eventually, they realized that was the expectation, and I learned how to ask powerful questions and listen actively, instead of offering advice and jumping in to fix all the problems.

Making these and a few other key changes helped to reorganize our office patterns, significantly decreased my workload and stress, and created more engaged and empowered employees. In a nutshell, I stopped ruining my work life and started to enjoy it more by integrating coaching skills into my management style.

2 Simple Ways to Stop Ruining Your Work Life And Get More Done

So, do you want more engaged, happier employees and less work and stress? Who wouldn’t! Why not bring some coaching skills to work? Here are a couple of things you can try starting TODAY that can make a big difference.

First, stop trying to fix things and solve problems.

When someone would come into my office with an issue, my immediate response would be to try and fix it myself. Trouble is, in large, complex teams this can mean you are solving a lot of problems for a lot of people, and never get your own work done.

When I switched to using more of a coaching approach by asking my staff to come to me with a couple possible solutions to their problem, along with identifying which they thought was best, something magical happened: they realized they could solve their own problems!

This led to many fewer knocks on my door, giving me more space to focus and get out of crisis mode.

Second, create accountability and follow-up systems.

All of my coaching sessions end with the client identifying their homework and action items. And they know that we will check in on them in our next session.

To avoid wasted meetings and endless nagging, use this coaching tool at work to create accountability with your team members. At the end of every meeting, clearly identify next steps, who is responsible, and by when.

It’s also essential, and incredibly helpful, to discuss what will happen (in advance!) if the action items aren’t completed by the deadline. You will see that once responsibility has been clearly assigned, people are much more likely to follow through. 

The trick is to also make sure that the action steps are clear and manageable - don’t just tell someone to ‘implement a new IT system’ with no further guidance.

You can continue to provide support in helping people complete their part of the project (ideally by asking them how they best want to be supported….another key coaching skill!), but if the action steps and timeline are clear it reduces the need to micro-manage.
Voila! Less stress for you.


About the Author

Darcy Luoma Coaching & Consulting (DLCC) was founded by President Darcy Luoma with a focus on creating high-performing people and teams through coaching, speaking, and consulting. We do this by focusing on leadership development, improving communication, and working through conflict in a positive way.

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